ootd no. 2 – when i no longer hated shopping

I’m sure some of you can relate. Shopping can suck. That is, if you can even find on-trend stores that carry your sizes (like looking for a GD unicorn). And I’m fairly certain it’s not just us fatties that have trouble shopping, so I don’t want to pretend that we own that little corner of the world. however, there are more of us in that corner than non-fats, i think. I’ve ranted before about how much I detest the fact that I am relegated to online shopping for a lot of my clothes.

I’ve never been a huge fan of shopping for clothes, for pretty typical reasons: nothing seems to fit, I hate how i look in everything, every time I go into (yet another) straight size store with my friends, I quarantine myself to the jewelry and/or handbag section. There are only so many times you can “ooo” and “aaah” at a necklace, amirite? anyway, shopping for my home? perusing bookstores? design stores? sign me UP. I think that’s because I actually like the process of shopping…when I get rewarded at the end with cute stuff to buy.

Before I became familiar with the fatosphere, and, more specifically, the fatshion bloggers out there, my clothing stores of “choice” were department stores like Macys or Nordstrom, the 8th circle of hell that is Old Navy, Target (for clothes that look ok but that I know will fall apart in two months), and Torrid. These will all certainly do in a pinch, and in fact, I’ve come to totally love the “woman’s section” of Macys (what does that mean, btw? non-women shop in the straight size section? whatever). They have great stuff and fantastic sales! In the last couple of years I’ve started to enjoy shopping for clothes again. Part of it is because I’ve focused my frustration, when I have it, outward…at the clothing manufacturers, at the department store for not carrying a wide enough range of sizes, you name it. I’m not angry or frustrated at myself because my body just won’t fit whatever it is I’m trying on anymore. This has been tremendously helpful. The other helpful thing? I just try more stuff on. I don’t assume things won’t fit by holding it up. And I don’t assume something will look hideous on me right off the bat.

Enter this ootd. I love this dress. love love love it. And I thought it was totally blech and meh when I saw it on the hanger. You name it, I didn’t like it about the dress (or “garment” as they say on Project Runway). The material was cheap looking, the pattern was too busy, a maxi dress on a fatty? lord help me. Then I tried it on and all of that went out the window. The dress is super flowy, which makes it feel absolutely divine around my legs in the summer when there is a breeze. The colors are bright and cheery and interesting. And what is this? I LOVE maxi dresses! As anyone in my life will tell you, I’m also partial to a good jean jacket. Delightful. The two together? Yes and please and thank you.

So, moral of the story! Try shit on! And be prepared to hate some of it. And don’t get pissed at yourself when things don’t fit – it’s not your fault.

I’d love to get some suggestions as to where you do your clothes shopping! I mentioned the physical stores I tend to head to, and online I’m in love with Asos Curve right now. What else?

dress: Inc. (Macys)
jean jacket: Old Navy
earrings: boutique in Richmond, VA

so pretty, right? like a painting.


13 responses to “ootd no. 2 – when i no longer hated shopping

  1. Last Christmas I found this jacket in the sales that I just loved. I nearly swooned over it. But it was extremely expensive – way out of my price range – and meant for somebody small. I walked away. Then I thought, try it on! So I went back, found the right size and tried it on.

    And hated it! It felt so good to reject a piece of clothing, rather than it rejecting me.

  2. I love Macy’s sales and especially I.N.C.! You look wonderful.

  3. beautiful! i never thought of trying maxi dresses either – you’ve inspired me!

  4. That dress looks awesome on you. Would love to see a photo of it on you without the jacket.
    I’ve wanted to get a maxi.
    In my size, of course.
    And cotton. With the heat waves we’ve had this summer, they’ve got to be kidding me with all the polyester. Like my skin doesn’t give me enough trouble.
    Oh, with a pretty design, colors not too dark, reasonable price, 52″ or shorter.
    It must be too much to ask, for I don’t have one yet.

    These days, I’d rather shop online. It’s less time and often less money, even if you factor in the shipping and handling fees. Also, it’s easier to search through many fashions from many places, and get opinions on the garment.
    I’m not pissed at myself when things don’t fit. I’m pissed at retailers and manufacturers for treating me as if my money wasn’t good enough. Did anyone ever inform them that this is a capitalist society? Are they doing well enough financially to ignore such a huge demographic?

    • I should have explained why there is no picture w/o the jacket on…the top is hella ugly and boring 🙂 i hardly ever wear it without a jacket or sweater, not because i don’t want people to see my arms (but that WOULD have been the reason a year ago!), but because I think it’s way cuter covered up.

      I’m sending you happy maxi-finding vibes!!

  5. Rockin’ a fab Maxi there Sabrina!
    One of the most helpful things I’ve had when it comes to shifting my focus while shopping is to remember that my body is not the problem, the garment is. So my body is not too big for a garment, the garment is too small for me. Companies need to stop blaming our bodies and start focusing on providing garments for ALL bodies!

  6. I have a couple things from Asos Curve which I really like. I’ve had mixed results with Macy’s but you’re so right- you have to try stuff on!

    • i only JUST found out about Asos Curve about 8 months ago. lurrrve. though i gotta say, my one beef with them is that some of their dresses are REALLY short. like, much shorter than they look on the model, and she is way taller than me!

  7. Hey…that looks familiar (and fabulous)…so wonderful to reconnect with you and the other brave amazing ladies this morning!

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